In a struggle to be happy and free

Drystone Wall

Category: children Page 1 of 6

So when I was a kid…

When I was a kid, I was told many times to turn down the music. Even when I had speaker cables running to the basement, so my music and my sleeping parents were separated by an empty level of the house, I still recall my dad coming downstairs and asking me what the hell I was doing. I just kept boosting the volume … until it was too loud.

These days I don’t listen to music quite so loud as I know it could do to my hearing, and I no longer feel any need for rebellion. Rather, I just listen to music. Sometimes it does need to be louder, granted.

So when I moved in with Julie some months ago, I fully expected to have the roles reversed. I’d be the one going downstairs in the middle of the night. But to my great surprise, it hasn’t happened, and it’s not likely to ever happen. Her kids have their TVs and computers, but no stereos. The closest they come is their phones, but they listen with AirPods and other headphones.

From the hallway looking into my ‘study.’ You’re looking at the back of one of the Magnepans … which sounds exactly like the front.

Far from me telling them to keep it down, they are the ones coming to me, telling me to turn it down! It’s mostly the subwoofer the kids want turned down, and it’s mostly the main speakers Julie wants turned down. The kids are a level lower. And one of my Magnepan speakers sits right in front of the door, so since they radiate sound equally forward and backward, it’s like I’m pointing the speaker out the door into the rest of the main floor, where Julie is doing something that doesn’t involve my music.

I get it. Others are doing their own thing and don’t want to be interrupted, but it’s strange that after all these years of living alone, I’m again the one being told to turn down the music.

The baby book, via e‑mail

The other day on my way home, I was listening to CBC Radio. The program host was talking to the mother of a ten-year-old girl…and this mother had the greatest idea.

When her daughter was born, she created a Gmail account in the girl’s name. When things happened in the girl’s life, mom and dad would describe them in e‑mail messages to the girl’s account. Not only was it like a journal that the parents didn’t have to keep track of, anyone they gave the address to could also contribute. And of course, anyone could include photos and videos in their messages as well.

The instant the parents gave the girl the log in credentials, she had a journal of her life from the beginning, complete with photos and video, written by her parents and their friends and relatives. What a gift!

Now tell me, isn’t that a terrific idea?


† I tried to look up the show and who it was about. I couldn’t find that information so I’m going to continue without attribution.

Required circumcision

Do you want yet another reason why religion needs to stay separate from government?

The CBC reported on the bizarre issue that began with a couple in Israel having a baby boy. Apparently, things were quite rocky for them and they were considering divorce by the time the child arrived. Unfortunately, the child was born with an unnamed medical issue that prevented the traditional circumcision on the eighth day of the boy’s life. The mother said,

As time went on, I started reading about what actually happens in circumcision, and I realized that I couldn’t do that to my son. He’s perfect just as he is.

Her husband didn’t agree and went to a rabbinical court over the matter. According to the rabbis, circumcision is

a standard surgical procedure that is performed on every Jewish baby boy, so when one of the parents demands it, the other cannot delay it except where it is proven to be medically dangerous

The mother lost an appeal to a higher rabbinical court so now she’s planning to appeal to Israel’s High Court of Justice.

As it stands, the government is fining the mother $149 for every day her son is not circumcised.

Yeesh. I have enough trouble with a surgical procedure being a religious requirement, but religious representatives having the government-mandated power to make it happen? Secular state for me, please!

A birthday wish

Happy first birthday to my grand-nephew!


Photo by his father, Steve.

Little man

I recently finally got around to looking at the photos I took the last time I visited my mom. During that trip I also visited my nephew, niece-in-law, and their son. Of course I took many photos! Over Christmas I had a very small number of keepers, especially considering how many attempts I made. In going over the most recent images, I was very pleased to find two consecutive images that I’m very pleased with. Here’s one of them:

4M6C1476.CR2: 5D Mk.III, EF 50mm 1:1.4 @ 1/250, f/2, 800 ISO

Isn’t he adorable?

I continued looking at the photo, and noticed my arm on the left side of the image (cropped out of the photo here). Wait, my arm? Then I remembered that my nephew Steve took a bunch of photos with my camera!

I’m glad to have the images, but it means that I have no really good ones that I’ve taken. I must have lost my child-photography chops!

I’ll just have to keep trying. And in the meantime, Steve is taking and sharing the most amazing photos of my great-nephew!


Photo by daddy Steve

Page 1 of 6

Powered by WordPress & Theme by Anders Norén